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The Power of Forgiving Yourself

A very brief guide to dealing with guilt & shame and learning how to forgive yourself. Inspired by various publications including “How to Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay and several articles from Bri Luna of

How do you define yourself? Perhaps it's through the work you do or the job title you have and you declare yourself an artist or musician. Maybe you derive meaning from your familial or romantic relationships and you bestow the labels of mother, wife, partner, sister or daughter upon yourself. Regardless of how we view ourselves, we as a culture are being urged to take better care of our minds and bodies. Enjoying the fourth wave of feminism, we are constantly reminded through social media how important it is for us to take time for our spiritual and mental health.

“Black Girl Magic” by Pierre-Jean Louis

“Black Girl Magic” by Pierre-Jean Louis

Call it self-care, shadow work, whatever you want-- it is undeniable that we are getting more in touch with our true selves. Voicing our opinions, refusing to compromise ourselves for jobs & people that make us feel less than, we are awakening to a new energy where we indulge only in that which serves our highest good. It's not easy, of course, trying to figure out who we are as people and what it is we really want. What defines us outside of our jobs and relationships? Who are we if we take away the professional titles and personal labels? These are sometimes painful questions to ask ourselves and the answers only come as we begin to invest in and listen to ourselves.

Face your darkest moments, relive those anecdotes in which you spoke too loudly, voiced an unpopular opinion, made an ass of yourself. Don't block them out in a cloud of shame and regret. Own those moments and forgive yourself for the mistakes you've made. Give yourself permission to move past them and release all the negative emotions you've been too ashamed to acknowledge. Take it a step further and forgive all those who have wronged you in the past. Forgive your parents, your siblings, your friends, your ex-coworkers, past partners. Forgive all of them and let everything go. -- allow yourself the luxury of having a clear mindset. Move forward with confidence, armed with the knowledge that you are more than your least proud moments.

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